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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Stop feeling like the bad guy.

Tell him he's a horrible dad. Get through to him in whatever means necessary, whether it's "how do you want the kids to remember you when they're older--oh wait, they won't because you never did anything with them" or signing him up for parenting classes.

Also tell him this impacts your relationship. Crappy dad does not equal good husband. Suggest marriage counseling, make an appointment, and tell him to show up if he wants to work on it. Otherwise, you have your answer that this will never get any better and either accept it or start looking for a divorce lawyer.  [/quote]

He's not a horrible dad though. He's not abusive, he makes sure our finances are in order, he doesn't yell or get mean or anything of the sort. He does love the kids, I just don't know how to get through to him that his indifference (for lack of a better word) is an issue. And yes, it does affect the marriage, it's hard to be romantic with someone when you're always in mom mode. [/quote]

I think not being abusive or mean is a pretty low bar to set for a parent. When your children look back at their childhood and all they can remember is that their dad ignored or woukd wander off to do his own thing during famoly outings do you think that's going to make them think about what a great parent he was?[/quote]

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