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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is also something you should not withhold from future partners (once things begin to get serious).[/quote]

Yes, that makes sense on a few levels.  I suppose the reactions from future partners will be as vary based upon personality but it has crossed my mind that certainly some % of future partners will exclude me from consideration based upon this alone.  I stated it above but I'm keenly aware that it reflects a monumental lack of judgment.[/quote]

I would probably reject you because you seem to have no interest in a child of yours.  That is scarier than the fact the child exists by far.[/quote]

The flip side is that it sounds like the mother did not tell OP when she was pregnant and then tracked OP down later after the child was already a toddler, purely for the money.  So in essence the courts allow the mom to control not only her body, but his sperm.  No wonder OP's reaction is somewhat emotion-less.  The fact that he's reaching out on a forum where mostly judgmental women post suggests he has a heart, but doesn't want to be a dupe.

The bottom line is that he has a child who, without his financial and emotional involvement, is unlikely to enjoy the advantages he has experienced. Does that sit well with him or not?  That ought to drive his behavior.[/quote]

Just a clarification, he had complete control of his sperm until he left it inside her vagina. "What would I do if this resulted in an unplanned pregnancy?" is a question that all sexually active adults should be prepared to answer. He is not a victim here.[/quote]

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