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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Most people are thinking that a normal human reaction to biologically producing a child is that you will provide for said child and do what you can so that the kid has the best chance at a decent life given a crappy family situation.  For the child's sake, it'd be sort of unimaginably cruel for you to make a unilateral decision that you're not going to even attempt to become emotionally invested.

Do you have a father who was involved in your life, OP? [/quote]

Yes, my parents were married when they had me and still are.  I understand the point you and others are making above regarding doing it for the benefit of the child.

The other post is getting really long but there's a few decisions to be made regarding the level of involvement.  Work out visitation with her, do it through the courts?  Stay here, move down there?  Visit one weekend every other month, once a month or more weekends per month?

The counter-balance to this is some of the advice from my lawyer regarding visitation challenges.  He told me that if she wants to fight it that it can be a very time consuming and expensive battle.  For example, I mentioned that she lives a few hours from here.  He said that if I go down there and she denies visitation the police won't enforce the order so I'd have to go back to court and continue going down there and trying to exercise visitation until I get a hearing date.  He said that eventually the judge might do something but not until she denies visitation several times and in the meantime I have an approximately 6 hours round trip on both the times I attempt to exercise visitation and for each of the scheduling hearings and trial dates.  [/quote]

Get a new lawyer. He/She is not supportive of father-child relationships.
Move closer, look for excellent school district.[/quote]

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