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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP doesn't sound like a terrible person. I have two kids and I would be annoyed. I don't mind sharing but want to be able to enjoy my things and don't want to feel like I'm being taken advantage of.  I didn't enjoy going on vacation with others before or after kids. Now that I'm older I'm comfortable refusing.  Getting together for a few hours with people is enjoyable but overnights are not. It's too much. [/quote]

This is totally fair.  You do mind sharing.  You know you mind sharing.  You no longer vacation with others.  A grown up approach all around.

Here's your solution OP.
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Happily shared snacks and sunscreen, etc. But my beach chair constantly being taken because theirs suck. Ugh. [/quote]

Oh I'm with you on the chair. You can totally ask for your chair back. "Ah, my favorite chair! I bought it last summer so I wouldn't have to spend this year's beach vacation in one of those uncomfortable chairs. " Some will say it's passive aggressive, but actually it's just honest fact. If they don't have the common sense to get up, then you can say "So...can I sit there now?"

My husband is that guy who likes to do for others, too. We vacation with friends a lot. For this McDonald's plan, I would absolutely have slept in, and let him deal with it. The tent? The other parents can handle it. Seriously, anyone with any sense at all would see that your dh is away getting food, and say to themselves "this tent isn't going to set up itself." If they do, they're helpless idiots. [/quote]

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