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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Is this out of character for him? I am curious about how he let you know about his plans.. Did he call you or just send an email? In any case, take this opportunity to take a deep breath and think about your conversation when he does arrive home. Let your DH take the lead with your son. Sometimes a naggy mom doesn't have the same impact. It is time for a discussion about respect, trust etc. This would seriously cross the line in my household. While I always supported my 2 boys, they would NEVER inform me of a 6 day vacation change. Don't allow him to pull the "I am an adult" card. Remind him that if he wants to be an adult, his college tuition is HIS responsibility.[/quote] OP here again and thank you everyone. Okay - so... DS let us know by text. A sort of "by the way..." and is now unreachable as they are somewhere in rural Sweden with, apparently, no cell service. I don't believe it but can't prove it. He totally paid for this trip with his own money. He had a great summer job and worked hard. He is not in any fall sport and his schedule is set - but he is senior class president and probably should have been back before school starts to do stuff... but I am not even sure about that. He is a top student - very responsible with grades/school work and actually very responsible about helping his younger siblings. He DOES live and eat at home as well as drive our car - but has been tutoring for extra money and hasn't asked us for much since he's been 14. He will, most likely, get a merit and/or need based scholarship to college. I am calmer now - thank you all -[b] [/b]but just sad. I miss him. I feel like he went to college already and he's gone. I just miss him.[b] [/quote] This right here is the issue and I can understand completely. Sounds like he's a great kid and you've done well. Tough to let go for sure. But, congrats on all your hard work paying off! [/quote] A great kid. Would have shown more consideration to his parents.[/quote] Yeah, making this decision w/o his parent's input, informing them of this choice after the fact and then making himself unavailable to discuss the matter.....I would have a big issue with that. He sounds like a great kid who has simply gotten a taste of adult freedoms and is loving every minute of it. He is feeling very grown up right now and capable of making decisions for himself. Feeling independent and grown up isn't necessarily bad, it's the inconsideration he is showing to his parents that is bad. To not explain where he'll be staying and who he will be with during the last portion of his trip is causing his parents (hopefully) needless worry. That isn't right of him. [/quote]
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