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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]PSA to women: When you husband tells you that he still thinks you're "hot" after you put on 40 pounds, he's saying that because he knows that he has no choice. If you were honest, you'd know that you'd freak out and get angry if said you being fat was a turn-off. Stop insisting that your husbands "validate" your attractiveness when you know that you let yourself go. A minority of men are into fat women, but most are not and are basically shamed into accepting it because they literally have no other choice that wouldn't wreck their marriages.[/quote]

Interesting. I was just at a water park with my family and [b]cannot tell you how many thin men were paired up with overweight women - many of them young and unmarried. I realize this is totally beside the point, because OP's DH doesn't find overweight women attractive, but obviously many men do. It see it all the time.[/b]

As far as OP comparing her DH to her overweight friends' husbands, I don't think it's a fair comparison in that her DH was overweight as a child and has his own issues and insecurities that he carries from his childhood - he's got "baggage" that impacts how he reacts to OP's weight gain. If he experienced any self-loathing or anxiety (or any other negative feelings) around his weight as a child, he's going to project that on OP and it will impact his sexual life with her.

So yes, he was an ass but OP understands why. It's not just about her, he's got baggage that influences his own intense workout regimen, etc.[/quote]
And how attractive were those thin men? Did they have great jobs or job prospects? Or were they still living with mom and dad playing video games all day? [/quote]

Yeah, I'm a little skeptical of this story about a bunch of young, skinny guys being with much heavier girlfriends and wives. It comes across like wishful thinking. I'm sorry, but most men aren't into significantly overweight women. The nicer guys will suck it up when their wives put on weight because they don't want to be mean, and because most men get fat too, so they can't really judge. But most of them would prefer their wives to be fit. [/quote]

I think the key part of that story was that it was at a water park [/quote]

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