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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have to agree that the 1.5 hour drive there at 9pm, and the 1.5 hour drive home at 1am are weird. DCUM, come on, that SCREAMS overly obsessed mom! As someone else said, she just couldn't help herself and had to step back into that mom role.

I wouldn't be mad, but yeah, that's weird and mom is desperate, bless her heart![/quote]

The mom is desperate for answering her son's call for attention while hospitalized?

OP says her husband contacted several people while he was there. He obviously wanted some attention, and his mom gave it to him. A three hour roundtrip drive is more than I'd do for a minor injury, but it was sweet of his mom to squeeze in some family time while he was feeling needy.[/quote]
OP says he called people to talk and joke around about the accident. His mom could have talked from the comfort of home for hours. She took it to the next level by making a crazy drive in the middle of the night. That's weird. Full stop. [/quote]

Ugh.  Having someone there with you at the hospital is nice.  You have someone to talk to.  In some cases you are hooked up to IVs and your movements are restricted so just having someone who can walk across the room and bring you a cup of water when your thirsty or whatever is nice.  If you are a "non-emergency" case at the ER you are low on the totem pole.  All of the serious patients get attention first which is how it should be.  But that also means that you might be in pain with a broken bone  and no one has brought your pain killers, yet.  Having someone there with you who can walk out to the nurses station and say "I'm worried that my husband/son/friend is in pain and I don't think that anyone has brought him his medication, yet"...that can make all the difference between being comfortable and being miserable.
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As a nurse, please stay home. I'm not even an ER nurse, but please, stay home. We know what we are doing.

The neediest "visitors" are always MOTHERS OF SONS! We've got it, honey. Your baby boy will be just fine. Mama's Boys, I swear![/quote]

Yeah, o.k.  I will give you props for the work that you do - not easy.  But your bedside manner might possibly need a little work?  I have seen the delays in the ER waiting rooms first hand. I realize that in some cases medication is contraindicated and that a Mamma Bear shouldn't be the one ordering it.  That was not the case in the situation that I saw.  Meds were ordered but never brought...[/quote]
And oftentime, they were administered and he patient doesn't even know or remember ;) We know what we are doing. I don't work in he ER but I know it's hectic. If you're in the ER and not getting that much attention, just think of the person who's getting it. [/quote]

Uh, that is why you bring it to the attention of the nurses in a respectful manner.  They can look at the chart and see what needs to be done for the patient.  In the situation that I'm referring to, the patient had been there for hours with nothing for the pain.  That is probably because the pain wasn't that bad at first but grew worse over time to the point that the patient was VERY uncomfortable....stuff happens. I'm glad I was there to help out.

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Well, respectfully making someone aware is one thing.

Most family members are less than respectful. "He NEEDS more pain meds! Why aren't you helping him!" (When they have no idea that more can't be administered and sometimes things do hurt even after pain mess are administered.) [/quote]

Yeah, I can see that. It's an emotional and often scary thing to see your loved one pain....  [/quote]

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