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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I kicked him out because he went outside to be interviewed. I heard the police say to him: "The police in X state have been trying to get a hold of you to no avail." He asked me to close the window so I couldn't overhear. That made me suspicious.

His friend disclosed to him last week that he had been swabbed. He's known for a week that his co-workers were being swabbed. He neglected to tell me.

To me, that seems like guilty behavior. [/quote]

It sounds like a man who is scared to death and trying to protect his wife to me. [/quote]

Not trying to start an argument, but I'm genuinely curious what you mean by this.  If they're looking for a DNA match and he knows it wasn't him, what's to be scared of?  If I knew they were swabbing people because they had evidence I'd rush to the station to get my name off the list.[/quote]

OP here, that is what I would do as well. If I wasn't guilty of a crime, yet was being accused, I would want to get it over and done with and move on. If I was guilty, I would do as he is doing. Evade police, not inform my spouse, try to prevent her from overhearing me being questioned...[/quote]

Hate to say it but yes. If he was innocent. At the very least if he was just wary of law enforcement...have a lawyer come down to the station with you to clear your name.[/quote]

And what if you've had previous bad experiences with law enforcement? In some communities people are advised to only talk to police officer with representation. So I'm sorry, but your imagined scenario doesn't apply for everyone, especially when you under stress - a normal reaction if you are being accused of something like this.[/quote]

White male here. I had bad experiences with law enforcement back when I was a teenager (and I can't imagine how much worse it is for black males). I don't seek to help them out. If they come to me with a court order, then fine. But I"m not giong to make their job easier.

If DH was guilty, then why didn't he get a lawyer the week before when his friends were being swabbed? [/quote]

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