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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]These stories are really sad. My friend's father had a secret love child. His mother found out when my friend was in middle school. His mother did not divorce his father because he was very wealthy and she did not want to give up the lifestyle. His parents are still married. My friend occassionally sees his half sister socially since they are now adults.

However my friend is pretty f&#ked emotionally. He is a very unhappy guy with a lot of insecurities. He says it goes back to what his fathet did.[/quote]

I don't know anyone in this situation but why would it impact the children of the intact family?  Did the father bring the other child around and that caused issues?[/quote]
Of course it affects children of the intact family.  Any time and resources the father spends on the love child is taken from the intact family, and has to be compensated somehow, typically by the cheated-on spouse.  You can assume the love child and children of the marriage are in contact, and when they grow up and put two and two together, it can lead to all kinds of emotional issues. For the children of the marriage, it's about losing confidence in their father. For the love child, it's about insecurities and unmet emotional needs because daddy always goes away to his real family and no one wants me. [/quote]

I'm the one who posted about my adult guy friend. Of course it impacts him. Imagine your father had another child and concealed it. Also, he was cheating on your mother. My friend is very smart and well educated. He was born with a silver spoon but his traumas from his childhood have really crippled him. He sort of has become a bit of an angry loser. As he is getting older his mental health is detiorating. It absolutely affe ts the children.[/quote]

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