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I mean, maybe, but that seems to be some pretty poor thinking on her husband's part - "I have trouble discussing my emotional life with my wife, so I'll start by bringing up some other woman that I almost married. I'm sure that'll be a noncontroversial place to start."

Sure, if your only focus as the spouse hearing this is on yourself and not on what your spouse is trying to tell you. If his other options for talking to her are about the depression he's been struggling with, or his anxiety about professional prospects that he feels are drying up, or fears about getting older and dying, he's not going to start there with someone he doesn't trust it's too sensitive if she reacts badly. Anything he would bring up as an example in this context is going to be loaded in some way, because otherwise he either would have said it already or it would be so trivial that it wouldn't matter whether he said it or not. To him, it was probably a great example because this woman was so far in the past and utterly meaningless to their current relationship, and yet he still feels like it needs to be a secret.

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You're just making excuses, and they're not convincing at all.  OP is severely overreacting, but DH did exercise poor judgment and a lack of sensitivity in bringing this woman up at this belated juncture.[/quote]

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