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[quote=Anonymous]So tired of entitled grandparents.  When its all about the grandparent's convenience, it is just not going to work in most families where you are trying to juggle so many different needs.

I am not my MIL's biggest fan but have nothing but praise for how she interacts with my kids.  She works around their schedules and my schedule whenever she can.  She is very clear in communicating what she can and cannot do.  She sets up her boundaries in a way that is kind but firm.  She is also clear on what she would like.  It makes it easy to encourage the children to have a good relationship with her.  She is modeling how she wants to be treated to them, and its working well.  She spoils them, loves on them, but remembers that they are individuals with their own needs.

One of my children is at "Camp Grandma's" this week.  She asked me to sign him up for a camp while he is there which I did happily.  She doesn't want a bored 9 year old around for a week but does want one-on-one time with him.  She worked with me before our summer plans were set and clearly communicated what she wanted (one kid at a time, one week at a time, some structured activities planned during the day for the 9-year-old).  I was able to meet all her requests.  If she just said "don't make any plans until I figure out what I want", not only would I have paid zero attention to her, I don't think the kids would have looked forward to their "week with Grandma".

OP - your mom is being selfish.  Running a household with kids takes some work and people that love you don't try to add to the burden but rather look to reduce the burden.  [/quote]

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