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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It makes me wonder if OP's BIL's family is having financial difficulties. How many guests are they inviting? I could see it if they really are having a tiny affair and feel that people flying in from DC will expect a huge event and will be disappointed if they came all the that way just for a small event. There has to be some reason for them insisting on OP bringing in drama everywhere.  If that is the case, I can see why they see you as a drama queen. Nobody was invited from your family, you called to get an invite, and while in my previous post I was on OP's side thinking her ILS are rude, it is clear that even if her BIL doesn't like her, in his eyes she and his brother are creating drama. They called, they wanted an invite, he is put off(especially if party is mostly one for his son's school friends, and even more so if it is just family that lives nearby bcs of financial issues) and certainly since the phone call SIL/OP has created enormous drama. OP must know that his family dislikes her, it comes across her posts, I don't know that this is her fault at all, they could just be terrible people, but OP certainly decided to instigate this particular drama and if they are such terrible ILS, the question is why? Why do you care OP? If you did nothing and they are terrible to you and nobody was invited, why do you care? Surely you are better off without any of you going to see them, and if your DH sees how they left all of his family out, but invited bunch of people they haven't seen in 20 years, isn't that better than this insanity?[/quote]

No.  As someone who grew up in NY going to big 200-people bar/bat mitzvahs I can tell you that LA ones are done the same way.  If they WERE having financial problems, they wouldn't cut their SIL. They'd cut the parents coworkers, neighbors, etc.

This is not a small half-day thing with the reception at the temple.  Maybe it would be in West Memphis, Arkansas (as if there are any Jews there).  This is a Friday night dinner and Sunday morning brunch. This is a big event. [/quote]

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