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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Did DH ask his parents or BIL what's going on? Does he know? Maybe he's not telling you because he doesn't want to get into it.[/quote]

MIL/FIL claim that BIL is just under a lot of stress and that we/I am making a half-day event a bigger deal than it needs to be.  BIL didn't say anything except this event is about his son and when DH asked why I can't come, that's the answer.

Maybe I am making it a bigger deal than necessary.  I'm not going to LA (I'm sure there'll be a Friday dinner, a Sunday breakfast, a lunch after the bar mitzvah, and a party that night (we've been to all the cousins bar mitzvahs) so it would be a full weekend of stress and fighting as I'm either not invited our not welcome and DH would have to "make a choice" every time between being included (which he wants) and protecting me (which he also wants).

I can definitely stay in DC.  That weekend is open for the bar mitzvah so I don't need to go and can hang with our girls.  I'll tell DH to go (he's downstairs) -- he'll be very happy and will look for plane tickets immediately (I know him :)

I guess that's also the plan for next year (niece's bat mitzvah) and I guess I'm supposed to do the bigger thing and invite them to our girls (and I'm sure they'll come since they always come to our events in the past), and even if it sucks for me, it shouldn't be about me.

I still say, however, that my marriage will remember this and on his annual (sometimes semi-annual) trips to see his brother, it will now leave a bad taste in my mouth.  And as "crazy" as it sounds, I will love DH a little less - or at least respect him less.[/quote]

Protect you from what?  And wtf is with all of the loving each other a little less? Y'all are some special kind of strange [/quote]

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