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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You should buy more food, as your husband suggests, as an act of love for your husband. You should "make yourself just not care" by reminding yourself that you love your husband and to treat his family kindly is a kindness to him.

It's his sister and his parents. So his sister does not work. So she accepts tickets to musicals. So she is kind of thoughtless and ungrateful. It's still his sister. He presumably wants to just go and have a nice time with his family on vacation and not be counting the exact number of loaves of bread his sister's family has consumed.

You have been nursing this grudge for a year?! Don't cause your husband grief by begrudging his family some grocery shopping. [/quote]

I guess I just expect the same - that I would be treated kindly and with respect.  [b]Yes, we make more money, but it doesn't mean we don't work hard for it (we're both out of the house a minimum of 12 hours M-F) and it doesn't mean we don't miss it.  [/b]Yes, I have had this grudge since last year, and yes, I want it to go away.  That's why I asked for help as to how to do that.  I appreciate the idea of focusing on doing it for him. [/quote]

You're upset over this.  Not the food.  Accept you can't force your inlaws to both work.  If you're unhappy with your current work arrangement then change it.  [/quote]

I am upset about my current work schedule, and I am actually close to accepting a new job that will cut down on my commute and some of my hours, so I have been working to change this aspect of my life that had been frustrating me.  But even if I was only working 9-5, I'd still be working hard for my money, so it irks me that others feel like they can ask me to spend it without any acknowledgement whatsoever.  I don't expect someone to grovel and treat me like their superior, but even a single thank you would suffice. [/quote]

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