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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So a group of girls was cyber bullying a girl who is going to be a new classmate this coming year? So sad, and also strange. Would think that would violate school honor code or behavior code of conduct. [/quote]

I think what is getting lost here is that nothing is quite so simple as it seems at first glance. For the sake of argument, let's assume the "bullies" in this case were a group of middle school girls on a private group text.  Let's assume the girls in the private group text commented on the photos the victim ("V" for short) posted on her social media and a few of them did make very mean comments (let's assume for argument's sake that V's photos were clearly attention seeking).  However, let's also assume the girls from the private group text never texted V directly and never posted any negative comments on V's social media in any way.  The twist comes when one of the girls from the group text screenshot the texts and sent them to one of V's current classmates.  After that V and her parents were made aware of the comments and demanded the school punish all the girls who were involved in the private group text regardless of whether they commented or not.  So were the girls really bullying V when they never contacted V directly and were talking on a private group text?  Or were they just gossiping like typical teens (which was mean, but not atypical)?  The only difference from when we were teens is that their gossip was in texts that could be screenshot versus talk that could just be conveyed verbally.  I'm sure the parents of the girls in the group text are not happy with their daughters' mean comments, but it seems understandable that they would not consider this bullying since the girls never intended for V to know they were talking about her and certainly never reached out to V directly with mean comments or threats.  Even so, the school is taking action to punish these girls, which the girls' parents do not think is fair in this case.  Now the girl who screenshot and sent the texts to V's current classmate ... I think she could legitimately be called a bully for doing that.[/quote]

So is this what happened?  Or shall we just assume it?  Why be coy at this point?[/quote]

Assume yes.  And top poster, sorry, but you are victim-blaming and that is not how we go about solving issues like bullying, sexual harassment, racism, or anything else that has to do with "free speech" that is hurtful.  This is why people get fired in the real world and this is also how kids get expelled from private schools who demand more from their students. When you say things that sound like you are going to ruin this young girl's life in her new school, it goes beyond "gossip" and to then blame the person to told another adult is beyond bizarre.  It's like these girls who were honestly horrified at the handful who were saying these outrageous things should have kept quiet despite knowing it was completely wrong and against any code of ethics on the planet, much less what they had signed.    And anything you put on the internet is NOT private.   So what you are saying is these girls should have kept quiet and let this girl go to that school in the fall, have her be further tortured and likely even more so since they were all talking about her behind her back and now she would be a classmate that they had all vowed to destroy and "never talk too"?  Are you saying that since she posted a photo, that she deserved that sort of vitriol?  I realize you are just trying to protect/defend your own girl, but do you really believe everything you said in your entry?  Think if it had been your 14 year old who had been on the receiving end of this, would you still be trying to defend their actions as private and thus privileged?

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