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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So a group of girls was cyber bullying a girl who is going to be a new classmate this coming year? So sad, and also strange. Would think that would violate school honor code or behavior code of conduct. [/quote]

I think what is getting lost here is that nothing is quite so simple as it seems at first glance. For the sake of argument, let's assume the "bullies" in this case were a group of middle school girls on a private group text.  Let's assume the girls in the private group text commented on the photos the victim ("V" for short) posted on her social media and a few of them did make very mean comments (let's assume for argument's sake that V's photos were clearly attention seeking).  However, let's also assume the girls from the private group text never texted V directly and never posted any negative comments on V's social media in any way.  The twist comes when one of the girls from the group text screenshot the texts and sent them to one of V's current classmates.  After that V and her parents were made aware of the comments and demanded the school punish all the girls who were involved in the private group text regardless of whether they commented or not.  So were the girls really bullying V when they never contacted V directly and were talking on a private group text?  Or were they just gossiping like typical teens (which was mean, but not atypical)?  The only difference from when we were teens is that their gossip was in texts that could be screenshot versus talk that could just be conveyed verbally.  I'm sure the parents of the girls in the group text are not happy with their daughters' mean comments, but it seems understandable that they would not consider this bullying since the girls never intended for V to know they were talking about her and certainly never reached out to V directly with mean comments or threats.  Even so, the school is taking action to punish these girls, which the girls' parents do not think is fair in this case.  Now the girl who screenshot and sent the texts to V's current classmate ... I think she could legitimately be called a bully for doing that.[/quote]

You sounded reasonable and sane until your last statement.   The girl who sent the screenshots would not be "bullying" the victim.  She would "tattling" on her fellow gossips.   I am guessing you have some connection to the mean girls in question and feel like they were betrayed by the "tattler".  In that case your argument would be that the tattler should be the one really getting in the most trouble but you failed in trying to make her the main "bully".  Weakened your otherwise logically argument.  Sorry.    I had a girl at the famous mean girl school.   I know those girls, and parents, sign a code of conduct about their online behavior, whether school related or in "private" social media, which by the way is never private, nor should they assume it is, according to many outside lecturers the school itself has brought in to educate girls and parents about the perils of social media.  (If you are an adult who expects a right to privacy on social media, let alone an email, God help you).  What OP should expect, and receive, from the school, is assurance that they are exacting punishment based on students and parents signature on that conduct form.   If the school is not following it's own rules based on breach of contract then the OP should at least reconsider sending her daughter there, and hire a lawyer if school will not refund any tuition.   Why would you want to send your kid to a place like that, a place where they don't enforce their own code of conduct rules?  And pay 45k for the privilege?    Get out while you still can.   In retrospect my daughter got a very good education, at the expense of her self esteem.  I would send her to a nicer place if I had to do it over again.  [/quote]

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