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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous[b]]How would you be feeling if these were your parents visiting from India for two weeks?[/b] My guess is you'd be going out of your way to do things for them that you don't normally do at home with just your spouse and kid.
I'm Indian (grew up in India) and my parents visit once a year, for 2-3 weeks at a time. A visit from my parents means more grocery runs, trips to the Indian store, cooking more meals a day, more dishes and laundry. My parents willingly pitch in, but like lots of Indians they are used to having household help at home and there's only so much they can do. They don't really feel confident taking my kids out by themselves, and sometimes it feels like I have 4 babies on my hands. I work part-time too, so in short, this is all a lot of extra work for me. I don't complain and neither does my husband. He goes out of his way to make their visit comfortable and so do I. It's worth it to be able to have your child spend time with his/ her grandparents! They are your family too!
Ask your MIL for her recipes, maybe she'll offer to help you in the kitchen. Similarly you could ask your FIL to help with stuff around the house - I took my dad to Home Depot and he was like a kid in a candy store, and busied himself changing all the lightbulbs, anchoring a dresser and whatnot! Even if they don't help out, it's just two weeks and will go by quickly.[/quote]

The bolded is unfair to the OP. So you like to pamper your parents. Good for you! OP may not like to(or is not able to) do as much, and that is ok too. Taking care of everyone is tough and draining.

The fact that your parents (and probably OP's in-laws) have help back home is a silly excuse for not realizing that one can do some work to help ease the burden in an environment where there is no help.

I am African, and when my 80 year old grandmother visits, she cooks and cleans after herself. She hardly does that back home, but she understands that there are less people to help here.

Anyone with empathy would offer to help.

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