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[quote=Anonymous]I guess I "pursued" DH.  We met through a mutual friend, I really liked him, and I made sure that we were in the same place a few times. I invited him to do a couple "friend" type things and we enjoyed each other's company.  But I had just about given up that he was going to reciprocate and ask me out, so I was ready to write it off.  He finally asked me out on a proper date, and things kept moving from there.  I now know that he's a pretty shy and reserved guy, and because of our age difference (he's 10 years older), he liked me but it didn't occur to him that I was interested in him until the third time I reached out to him to hang out.

BUT.  Later in our relationship when he started to get cold feet about getting serious, I very intentionally backed off and gave him space.  I remember specifically saying "I think we could be great together, but I'm not going to sit here and try to convince you to be with me."  And I meant it.  I never wanted a relationship that my partner had to be coerced into.  If he wasn't coming in wholeheartedly, I didn't want it.  It took him a few months to work through his own stuff, but he did.  When we got back together I knew that it was because it was what he truly wanted.  That was 15 years ago, and our marriage is going strong.  I couldn't be happier.[/quote]

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