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[quote=Anonymous]Hi OP - 
I have three and while the age split is different, there is a 7 year gap between my oldest and youngest.  One thing that strikes me with two older boys and a baby is that in many families, the dad will end up as the one who focuses on the boys while you are home with the baby, especially if it's a girl.  For example, Johnny and Timmy have basketball games at the rec center at 11:30 and 12:30 and dad has been working with them on their blocking.  Larla is 16 months and is at that stage where she wants to run onto the court or throw her snack or whatever, and the games are at lunch and naptime.  Guess who isn't going to the game?  It's not a big deal, but in my family it has turned into a long-term issue for me.  I'm always home with our little girls (toddler and preschooler) while my husband takes my son to his sporting events.  I do feel like I'm missing out on the big kid stuff and I'm still on the floor playing with effing megablocks 9 years into parenting. Sometimes, I'd like to see the basketball game.

I will say that you guys are young, and that's an advantage.  You can have a third and still have time later to do more things like travel and pursue your own hobbies.  Having a third at say 42 is really different, and leaves you with essentially no middle age empty-nester time.

Also, think about whether or not you would be disappointed if your third one is a boy?  If you are really just going for the girl, it may not go tht way (you know this).  [/quote]

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