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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]TBH, if I were obsessed about my kid going to an Ivy, I suppose I would think like this.  But I am not.  DH attended an Ivy and I attended a non-Ivy T20.  We have both done well in life.  For that reason, we were fine letting our kids be kids and our teens be teens.  They played travel teams because they enjoyed it and it kept them motivated and in shape.  Our kids played video games but they also designed them (that looked pretty good on the essay).  They were all active in our church because they enjoyed it.  Our goal was not to raise some superstar "Ivy or bust" kid.  We wanted to raise balanced, happy and well adjusted kids who had the perspective to know that not going to Ivy was not failure.  Fortunately, 3 of our 4 kids attended/are attending non-Ivy T20s.  Better yet, our oldest is in grad school at HYP .  Our middle DD did go to S - but she just lived her life - she did not feel the need to supercharge her activities so they looked good on an app. [/quote]

Little difference in the profiles of HYPS and T20 matriculants. Sounds like you're one of those Type A moms who pretends she's above it all while being just as obsessed with the rat race as Amy Chua.[/quote]

Nope.  Nice try though.  Nothing Type A about me.  There is enough pressure on the kids from peers and the school.  When I say that we, as parents, did not obsess about this - trust me, it is true.  [/quote] +1  I have one child who was accepted to multiple Ivy's this year and another who will likely attend a Tier 2 school in a couple of years.  They were raised in the same home with the same opportunities.  They simply have different interests and different internal motivators.  I have no doubt each will do well at their college of choice and succeed just fine in life. The stereotype of the Ivy obsessed parent orchestrating their children's lives is beyond tiresome  
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