Reply to Open Marriage Article

Forum Index » Relationship Discussion (non-explicit)

Reply to "Open Marriage Article"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]
For me, I can understand wanting to have more than one partner, or to be in an arrangement with more than one.  Polyfidelity, they call it, either in MFM or FMF varieties.
What I don't understand is the desire to "date around" while married.  If one just wants to date lots of people, then why get married in the first place?[/quote]

Polyamorous woman here.  How do you think polyfidelity comes about? Insta-relationships?  Nope, triads and other closed configurations sometimes develop after "dating around" and eventually finding another partner who meshes with both of you. Just like how monogamous people don't propose marriage on the first date.  [/quote]

Hello Polyamorous woman.  Do you mind telling us if you are married, and if so, how you came into polyamory?  And what relationship configuration you are in now?[/quote]

Yes, I'm married.  Quite happily, in fact. My husband is polyamorous as well.  We met very young and opened the relationship when I realized I was bisexual.  Neither of us wanted to end a good relationship just so that I could explore my sexuality.  We realized after I had a few girlfriends in college (and so did he) that being sexually open didn't interfere with the trust and intimacy we had with each other, so we've continued seeing other people through out our relationship.  We've tried swinging, but sport f*ing isn't either of our style. I came to identity as poly when I realized I could feel love for my husband and other people simultaneously.   I met a woman and fell in love with her, my husband and she were friends for the first year she and I dated, they eventually fell in love as well.  We were a triad for a few years. It ended for reasons unrelated to polyamory. She's a good person and I wish her well.  My husband and I are still together, still deeply committed to our life together, to being kind and honest, and we're still poly.[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics