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[quote=Anonymous]I am about half done with the series.  I actually highly recommend it to parents of teens.  Some stuff does not ring "true" for me.... but a lot of it does like the "evolving" friend groups, boys hinting (or even outright saying) that they are getting more sexual favors than they really are, some "clued in" parents and some clueless parents.

Reality also is that some teens are way more mature than others.  My almost 15 year old has not watched but has heard a lot of talk about it and such and we have talked about it a little bit.  Frankly, I think my openness with her and fact that I am not constantly babying her makes her much more self-confident and much less likely to be drawn in to teen drama.  She is the kind of kid that when someone posted something not nice about her on Instagram in Middle School immediately called me.  She couldn't reach me so she told the boy "You take down that post within the hour or I will go have a nice discussion with your Dad and whomever else I think should be told.  If you take it down and stop--  this will go no further."  (And kudos to the boy.  He took it down.  Apologized and THANKED HER for the opportunity to "make it right.")  By the time I could reach her by phone everything was resolved!  She can easily handle Thirteen Reasons and will not see it as glamorizing suicide and may indeed remind her that other kids are less resilient and maybe she can be a little more understanding.

My 13 year old is rather "immature"--  not in a bad way (at all!) more in a "happy go lucky" way.  I think the show would disturb her.  She is very sensitive.  A lot of it, though, would also go over her head and she wouldn't understand all of it.  I will tell her that she is allowed to watch it--  but only if we discuss it and she comes to the family with questions and such.  I will also tell her that I think it might disturb her and that I would not recommend her watching until she is a little older.  My guess is that she won't want to watch it-- unless one of her friends is watching it with her.

To the parents who think that they have their kids (and Netflix) on lockdown, if you kid is over say 11 year olds--  you have either the nicest (and/or least able) kids on the planet or you are deluding yourselves.  Three kids that I know with the strictest rules about phones/social media/boys are the three kids I know that are engaged in the most risky behavior.  When you make everything "forbidden," the teenage years become a challenge to evade the parents.  Loosen up a bit.  Give your kid a little opportunity to stand on their own two feet and develop some self-confidence.[/quote]

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