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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Agree with 16:10.

Looking for 'diverse' schools doesn't mean there will be no racial animosity.  You fill find plenty.

Help your kids find kind, supportive friends (of any race) and don't worry about it.[/quote]
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I'm the PP who you're responding to.  What exactly in the post you quoted are you rolling your eyes at?  Finding supportive friends?

Another biracial poster who agrees that schools with 'diversity' don't shelter you from people with racial animosity.  [/quote]
And no one is saying that, no matter how many times you try to make the conversation about that.
Racial diversity ensures that your child does not feel isolated as the only one who is different.[/quote]

That is exactly the point.  Every kid is different.  Just because another student has the same skin color as you, doesn't mean that he is going to be a good friend.

What am I trying to make the conversation about?  The conversation is about whether having other kids of the same skin color at your school means that you will have a 'better' experience.

I absolutely do not want my kid choosing friends based on whether the kid looks the same as her.  What is the point of that?  Being in a 'diverse' school doesn't make my kid immune to feelings of isolation.

Obviously your view on this differs, and that's fine.  We all have different experiences.  But that does not make my experiences less valid.

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How old is your child?
I think you are continuing to make assertions that don't match what people are saying. My child doesn't choose friends based on their skin color, and I wouldn't want her to. But she has the chance to make friends who she enjoys being with, and who also have some additional things in common due to being black.  That didn't really matter to her when she was little. Now that she is in a period of tween/teen identity formation, it's something she thinks about more. 
I have a white friend with a biracial son. One day when he mentioned being sad about being the only brown kid in his class, she told him, "we are all different and wonderful in our own way." He replied, "no mom, I'm different. They are all the same."
We all want our kids to be emotionally healthy and happy. We want to spare them from the bad experiences we had as kids. But none of us can predict the future or control how our children feel. They could repeat our experiences, but feel differently about them. They could have different experiences, but end up feeling the same pain. We all are just trying our best.[/quote]

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