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[quote=Anonymous]I am in a Jewish-Christian marriage and I can honestly say that I am very very grateful my pastor was frank with me during my engagement.  I was exactly like your brother, believing that we would just cross the whole children-and-religion thing when the time comes.  It's very very very naive.  These are fundamental issues that need to be discussed by the couple during their engagement.  They are not necessarily deal breakers, but the man and woman need to have an open and honest conversation.  My pastor helped me to see that I needed to do this and I took his advice, and we ended up choosing to raise the kids in my religion, which I 100% believe was the best choice for us.  To be honest, I knew what I wanted, but I was scared to rock the boat during the engagement given the religious differences we were having just planning the wedding ceremony itself.  My pastor gave me the courage to speak up.  We have been happily married nearly 15 years now.

As for your situation, I think you should express your love and support to your brother for his marriage, but also encourage him in a loving and sisterly way to have a conversation about children and faith with her now, while they are engaged.  Recognize that he very well may not want what you or your parents want.  It's his life.  Once you've said your peace, drop the conversation and let him take what you said, or leave it.

I do not in any way think you should discuss converting with your future sister in law.

I agree with the other posters who said that given she is Jewish, her children will be Jewish according to that religion, and probably raised that way, and your parents probably recognize that.[/quote]

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