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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=AdamGamecock][quote=Anonymous]OP, my honest opinion is that you wanted to "seem" like you were up for sex but you didn't really want to do it. Everything you've said so far sounds like sabotage.  Let's be honest, you didn't really want to have sex with your husband did you?  [/quote]

Bingo! This was more of a "test" or "game". He chose not to play and I can't blame him. Communicate directly with men. Don't hint or beat around the bush. [/quote]

Man here. It was a manipulative game and he had no idea it was even happening. Men don't care about the house being clean or the relatives all in on a 5 year old birthday party. That's the woman's world view and priority. Men are just as happy walking around a cluttered house eating food on a napkin with a toothpick. They figure you are having a great time buzzing around creating your ideallic stereotyped environment and that it brings you so much pleasure, you are ok with not having sex. You are never going to get him to happily join in on the fetish he doesn't really care about.  He figures he works his ass off in big law which is a royal pain in the ass making big money and he needs downtime to continue competing. He innately senses many women would kill to have him provide and foolishly believes some of them may not be so non verbally manipulative.[/quote]

Don't men ever get tired of not being able to read between the lines?  I would hate to have to be told explicitly every single thing in a relationship - "help me with the usual chores if you want sex."  Yuck, so....blunt....[/quote]

I think men innately sense that they are going to die ten years earlier than their wives and in many ways are weaker and more worn out after work than women are. Men are hard on the outside and women are hard on the inside. It's almost unhealthy for men to push themselves beyond their competitive jobs. It seems like they need downtime more than women. I think they are willing to live in a dirty chaotic situation if it adds a few years to their lives.[/quote]

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