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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, my honest opinion is that you wanted to "seem" like you were up for sex but you didn't really want to do it. Everything you've said so far sounds like sabotage.  Let's be honest, you didn't really want to have sex with your husband did you?  [/quote]

I truly did. I didn't want to sabotage that, but I did want to get those things out of the way - preferably with his help, without having to ask and [b]direct him[/b] - to allow us to be relaxed and enjoy it. [/quote]
"Direct him"? There's your problem. Nobody wants to be [b]directed [/b]on how to do mundane, basic chores. Maybe that's why he doesn't do them as often. My DW and I split the chores and childcare 50/50 and the way I do things is totally different than the way she does them...but they get done and we don't argue about them. Sure, I might get an eye roll when doing the laundry or loading the dishwasher but it gets done. [/quote]
That was my point, I don't and don't want to ask him and explain how to be a more equitable partner in this relationship. I do not understand why, after having prior discussions about how I need him to do more chores and help with the kids over and over, he doesn't come up with the initiative on his own without me having to ask him to help in the moment. I don't care how he loads the dishwasher, and we even have different parenting styles and I don't mind that, as long as he does engage the kids. [/quote]
So remind me again why you wanted to have sex with him? If I acted like your DH, I don't think my wife would want to ever have sex with me...but then again, I don't work in biglaw.[/quote]

Some women do have spontaneous desire, you know.[/quote]
Yes, we all understand that. This was a text for a future time that evening.  It wasn't a "I'm horny, let's go upstairs right now" sort of thing.[/quote]

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