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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, has your girlfriend ever indicated before that she'd like to have another child?

If not (and this is the first time you are hearing about this), then I think it's unfair of her to put pressure on you, given the relationship started out casual and you had no clue there was a time limit (i.e., that she was hoping to have another baby and, given her age, would need to act soon).

I would ask her if this was her intention all along or if she only recently realized she wanted another baby.

If she knew all along that is what she wanted, then, despite how you feel about her, I would be very cautious about continuing a relationship with her b/c it sounds like from the start she had intentions she wasn't open about.

No matter what age you are, you don't date a person for a year with no mention of wanting to marry or have children some day and then suddenly give them a "it's now or never" talk.

Regardless, if you are not ready, then you are not ready.  The best thing you can do for her is be honest about that.[/quote]

oh please. no sane woman is going to say "I want to have a baby" on the first date. it sounds desperate and crazy. Iran not something you share with a near stranger.[/quote]

I'm 45 and divorced with 2 kids.  2 of the guys I've dated did not have kids.  One was 38 and the other 42.  With both people, by the 3rd date, I made it clear that I was not interested in having any more children.  One guy said he really wanted to have his own.  We parted ways.  The other guy said that was okay with him and he wanted to continue on and see where it went.  We broke up for other reasons a few months later.  By the time you're in your late 30s, you know what you want.  Why not say it early on--what's the point in waiting?[/quote]

that's a very very different situation. it's ok for a woman to say she doesn't want children even on the first date. but not to say she wants them. that's just makes her look desperate and needy.[/quote]

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