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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, has your girlfriend ever indicated before that she'd like to have another child?

If not (and this is the first time you are hearing about this), then I think it's unfair of her to put pressure on you, given the relationship started out casual and you had no clue there was a time limit (i.e., that she was hoping to have another baby and, given her age, would need to act soon).

I would ask her if this was her intention all along or if she only recently realized she wanted another baby.

If she knew all along that is what she wanted, then, despite how you feel about her, I would be very cautious about continuing a relationship with her b/c it sounds like from the start she had intentions she wasn't open about.

No matter what age you are, you don't date a person for a year with no mention of wanting to marry or have children some day and then suddenly give them a "it's now or never" talk.

Regardless, if you are not ready, then you are not ready.  The best thing you can do for her is be honest about that.[/quote]

oh please. no sane woman is going to say "I want to have a baby" on the first date. it sounds desperate and crazy. Iran not something you share with a near stranger.[/quote]

Of course, I don't think she should say "I want to have a baby" on the first date.  But you're talking about two adults nearing 40, both single parents at this point.  Somewhere in the early stages she could have at least indicated that marriage and more children were things she still hoped were options -- especially if she was going to sing the "there's no time to waste!" tune.  It sounds like if she would have even suggested that remarrying was something she wanted, it sounds like OP wouldn't have kept dating and she could have moved on to someone who is also looking to marry and have kids.

Heck, even 6 months in, she could've said something.[/quote]

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