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[quote=Anonymous]You are going to be over-emotional about this because

(1) you have an infant and that makes everything in life hard
(2) you had an eating disorder and so food is not just food to you, it's loaded with more emotions than even a regular ol' person feels towards food
(3) your MIL's judgey attitude is truly annoying behavior

Whatever you do, you need to recognize that you're reacting to this in an over-emotional way, and regulate yourself accordingly. This is not so big a deal that it should be such an issue. Take a deep breath. Have an extra glass of wine. Remember that one day this woman will be dead and that you will miss her...remember that she gave life to your husband, and you want to be on good terms with her if possible to maintain family harmony.

Personally, if it were me, I'd grab the Moosewood Cookbook and tell MIL, before she arrives, "I was thinking for dinners while you're here we'd have X and Y and Z from this great new vegan cookbook. How does that sound? Would you be willing to do the grocery shop when you're here so we get the brand of ingredients you like?"

And then, if you happen to be eating candy or bacon one morning and she says something, just laugh and say, "Oh, MIL, we all have our little vices!" and move on.   [/quote]

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