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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op here: I told him I want to postpone the wedding. He's not talking to me, he also will not acknowledge the strong differences in family values and doesn't see it as an issue.[/quote]
Good for you, OP. That is a really hard step to take, but his reaction tells you it was the right decision! You can't be married to someone who refuses to communicate. [/quote]

Congratulations, OP, for making the tough but right decision.  I disagree with PP though that your fiance's reaction is validation.  He's in shock right now and it's totally normal that he wouldn't talk to you for the time being.  But when he is finally willing to talk with you (and it should be within a week), THAT is when you will know that your decision is the right one.  Having said that, IMHO you don't even need to wait until then to know.  As PPs have said, problems get magnified 1000x fold during the marriage and being close to one's family is not like drug or alcohol abuse where the person knows deep down they have a problem.  Your fiancé is not going to change as much as you want or need him to because at his core, he thinks being close to his family is awesome and will never see how he puts you second let alone see a problem with it.[/quote]

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