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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I was all modern and thought this kind of thing was fine.

Then my DH came home one day and said he had fallen in love with this other woman from work and he wanted a divorce. I had been working a lot  and he was going out for lunches with this woman.(all you men who want successful hard working money earning women - I'm not sure some of you really do because you act like babies when it's happening). She had been flirting heavily with him and had spent plenty of time bashing me too - though I'd never met Suzy Bitch. Come to find out years later (from DH) that she didn't have feelings for him really but was more of a game of 'let's see if I can catch this married guy'. Well, she did catch him because he was really in love or at least heavily infatuated with her - he was really messed up about it for a long while. That was really fun to go through  :cry:

Do I trust DH to be having lunches out alone with women? I don't really think that for him it's a great idea. Apparently he might just run off with whatever floozie presents herself if I'm otherwise occupied. He told me that it 'just happened'. Like he had no control.

We've since reconnected , had 3 beautiful kids together and had a nice time together. But this definitely colored our relationship as I doubted that he actually loved me for a long time.

For some men (and women) it's probably better to go out with a group and not personal time out with one other person.

He recently had a high school GF 'reconnecting' with him through daily emails and maybe meeting up- was that an argument? Yes it was.
If he didn't have a tendency to take things too far it would be fine, but that's not the case. What the hell - emailing every damned day? 
If he wants to hit the road - fine. But I'm not dealing with his confused  blubbering 'I'm in love with two women at the same time' trash again.

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Sounds like you married a keeper.

I have enough to worry about, and I don't have the time or mental/emotional capacity to control my husband. If it has been us in your situation, I would have packed his things and shipped him over to Suzy's house. If she didn't want him, oh well.[/quote]

Yes - that was definitely one of the options. I do sometimes think of how my life would have been different had I chosen the 'see ya' path instead.
Too late now.

He has been a good husband and father since, but it made for several crappy years that I did not deserve.

I have noticed that the successful women in my field for the most part have not married. It seems you need to choose husband/kids or career - unless you marry someone like Notorious R.B.G. did (Marty).[/quote]

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