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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Oh ladies, you are making fools of yourselves trying to demonize the DH's behavior in this situation. It is clear from this interaction that OP was completely in the wrong. She needs to learn a)not to touch people when they ask her not to and b)not to take it personally when DS prefers DH. Problem solved.

On a side note, no wonder so many of you have miserable marriages. There are 5 pages of DH bashing going on when the issue is clearly with OP.[/quote]

But this doesn't solve the biggest problem of all - OP's husband totally out of proportion reaction to "inappropriate" touching. All other issues pale in comparison.[/quote]

Oh please. That's what you took away from this interaction? [/quote]

Not the PP, but absolutely, yes. OP and her husband were NOT arguing prior to this and he later told her he didn't hear her son tell her not to rub his back. So as far as he was concerned, there was nothing go on. And yet his *first* response to her touching him is "take your hands off me right now," followed up by "you've crossed a boundary. We don't get physical."

Are you honestly saying that seems normal to you?[/quote]

Reposting because I screwed up the format a second ago.

DP and +1. The stuff with the kid is normal and natural. The DH's reaction to me implies SERIOUS foundational marital issues.

Honestly I would not react this way if a girlfriend touched my arm or my mom or a sibling. The only time I can see reacting in this extreme way is if I was feeling like my physical safety is in danger and that would be reserved for a stranger or if it was in the middle of a very heated argument with someone. If her DH feels his physical safety is in danger when she touches him that is a problem because she must have done something to make him feel that way. And if he has no reason to feel that way and reacts that way that is ALSO a problem because he is being mean and manipulative. 
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