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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Oh ladies, you are making fools of yourselves trying to demonize the DH's behavior in this situation. It is clear from this interaction that OP was completely in the wrong. She needs to learn a)not to touch people when they ask her not to and b)not to take it personally when DS prefers DH. Problem solved.

[b]On a side note, no wonder so many of you have miserable marriages.[/b] There are 5 pages of DH bashing going on when the issue is clearly with OP.[/quote]

Yes, the fact that so many people can't imagine their husbands not wanting them to touch them is probably proof that we have miserable marriages.  Good thinking.

No one is saying OP acted correctly, she's clearly behaving childishly with the competition for her son's affection.  But the way that her husband responded to her touch is not a normal interaction.  Even if she should have reacted by immediately removing her hand from his arm, the reaction is a sign that there's something very wrong in this marriage.  I'm not going to go so far as to say he's a psycho -- the previous poster who said it sounds like language you bring into a relationship recovering from abuse is more likely correct in my mind -- but this is not a healthy dynamic.

If OP had reacted better in the moment -- if she had immediately stopped touching him and gave DH and DS space to snuggle -- this story would still send up red flags about their marriage.  That's just not how people who are in a good place relate to each other.[/quote]

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