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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My MIL lived 2 miles away for several years, but saw our kids only when there was a big family gathering. She didn't offer any help when the kids were born. She visited for less than an hour  in the hospital and that was the end of it.  When our oldest was 4 and our 2nd child barely 2, she moved across the country. DH was upset but I decided it was for the best because our kids wouldn't interpret her lack of interest as rejection. When we had our 3rd, we invited her out here. To my amazement, she told us she was coming for a week when he was about a month old. We were so excited for her visit. She arrived around noon and stayed through dinner. That was the total time she spent with us. DH was crushed since he had been at work for most of those hours. She spent the rest of the week visiting other friends and relatives. She has since visited maybe a dozen times over 10 years, but each visit is no more than 1-2 hours, even though she is in the area for weeks. It's sad. She sends a card and $25 gift card for each of the kids birthdays and Christmas, but makes no other effort to communicate with them.  When they were younger, I had them write her letters, make cards and send handmade gifts, but she never responded. She calls DH about every 3-4 months. He is guilty of not calling her either, though. I nag him to call her about once a month (she rarely answers and doesn't return his calls).  I think after a decade of being ignored, he is done. I had always hoped that one day she would come around and be an involved grandparent, but now it's too late. My teens don't feel any connection with her. My youngest really doesn't know her at all. [/quote]
I wish I had your MIL[/quote]

I had to lol. Mine lives 2 miles away and we see her 50 times a year. Yup, 50 times a year. [/quote]

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