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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, FWIW, I do agree with a number of people on here who have shared their belief that her telling you is a good sign of how much she cares.

Also, I have found some of the most judgmental people are either those who have the proverbial skeletons or are just being pious due to their own insecurities and to feel above the common folk. There is a difference between citing the facts while not condoning and condemning someone for their past actions. And just because someone stole something 20 years ago doesn't make them currently a thief.

“I am not what I ought to be, I am not what I want to be, I am not what I hope to be in another world; but still I am not what I once used to be, and by the grace of God I am what I am” 
John Newton

Some people believe that once done it labels you forever. I don't like those people and doubt they apply the same standards to themselves.

“Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. But today is a gift. That's why they call it the present.”

If you are developing deep feelings for this woman, and she for you, then leave the past be and enjoy the present you have before you.[/quote]
Very nice sentiment, in the abstract.

Pop quiz: who do you trust with your wallet?

(a) someone who regularly stole 20 years ago but claims not to have stolen since, or

(b) someone who's never stolen anything in their life?[/quote]
Your use of the word regularly disqualifies your example since, based on the limited evidence before us, it doesn't apply to OP's GF. Although it would me.

As to b, it's an extremely rare individual that hasn't taken something that doesn't belong to them.

And as to a, let's refer back to b first and then take into consideration the evidence within the present before summarily applying.

Back to how it applies to me. I shoplifted when I was younger. Wish I hadn't but I did and was so good at it I was never caught. Not even one time. But that didn't remove the fact that I was a thief. Anyone who knows me now will tell you that if given the wrong change at the checkout I will return it. Even to a point where I will drive back to the store if I didn't become aware of it until much later. I once had someone that left some money in my office. It had fallen to the floor in front of my desk. I didn't know them and they were supposed to return to complete the transaction but never did. Since all I had was their first name I didn't have a way to find them so I held that money for two years in the same envelop. I finally donated the money to a local animal rescue but kept the persons first name and the amount for years after that. Am I to be trusted now? Well, for some the answer would be no given my past even though it was decades ago but fortunately not everyone is so dogmatic in their judgment of others.[/quote]

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