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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My DH is like this - a low paying but cool and important field. We talked about these things when we were engaged. When I hinted at "selling out" and taking a high paying job he would truthfully answer... "then you might want to marry someone else." He said it jokingly, but it's 100% true and I'm glad he said it.

Now then, it doesn't mean I don't get super frustrated by the situation, but I went into this with my eyes open. I try to think of all the awesome qualities he brings to my life aside from his salary.[/quote]

Your husband is wise.

More people need to have a brutally honest conversation about career and financial expectations before marriage. OP got into trouble because her husband mistakenly tried to appease her by acting more ambitious than he apparently is. And OP was not honest about her own sky high expectations* in a husband's earning potential. She should have been upfront with him that she expected him to be making mid-six-figures by now. That may seem crude, but it's better to be honest, upfront.

* The average salary in this country is around $50K. [/quote]

Eh, you can have the talk, but people change. Mature people recognize that when making a lifetime commitment and bringing kids into the world.[/quote]

From the original post:

"He said when we were contemplating marriage that if we ever needed him to he would go into private practice and earn more."

It seems that they were not being honest with themselves.

Though, I agree. Very young people often convince themselves that they are not materialistic, and only to "come out of the closet" (in a manner of speaking) after marriage and kids.[/quote]

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