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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If you'd like to google a bit, you'll find that emotional abuse websites usually include "giving the cold shoulder" under emotionally abusive behavior. It's manipulative and unkind. 
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Calling giving someone the cold shoulder "emotionally abusive behavior" is ridiculous. Yes, it's dumb and immature but abusive? Is "not listening" emotionally abusive? Is "not doing what you are told" emotionally abusive? We've become a society where dumb, stupid acts that have been around forever are now given the descriptor "emotionally abusive behavior". Emotionally abusive behavior is when you treat someone with contempt, debase all they do and make them feel like a lesser being. Cold shoulder? Please - we all get the cold shoulder at many points in our lives and part of growing up is dealing with it. [/quote]

Of course we all get the cold shoulder and worse from people at times, and we deal with it. If you think it's healthy behavior in a relationship, though, you're screwed up. Don't dismiss abusive behaviors just because they're not the most extreme form.  You don't have to beat someone to a pulp emotionally or physically for your behavior to be abusive. Emotionally abusive behavior involves acting in a way to hurt and manipulate someone. Giving someone you supposedly love the cold shoulder is designed to upset and scare and hurt them, right? It's not designed to do anything else. [/quote]

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