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I totally get that. The way he found out was really *hitty I know.

He's also upset that i did what he views as stuff that doesn't interest me in doing with him which he takes as a sort of insult or something. Anyway this has just spiralled

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This is the essence of it and was my first immediate reaction when I read the first post (without even seeing your later elaboration). For men, sex is elementally the most important way that a woman expresses her attraction for him. You were willing to do things with those other men that you wouldn't do with him.  Of course you don't owe any act to anyone. But the fact that you were willing and interested in trying different things with other men and won't for him is something of course something that he takes as an insult.    This sends the message that  *they* were the ones that you were really interested in and and trying to please and he's kind of the reliable backup  schlub you had to settle for when things didn't work out with the men that really interested you.

[b]Let's put it this way-let's say that you were unhappy with the lack of romance and consideration in your marriage. He never remembered birthdays or planned dates or took you out. And you found out later that he had done all sorts of romantic gestures and date planning with his last five girlfriends. I doubt that you'd be like "Who cares? None of my business what happened before!" You'd probably take it pretty poorly.
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So listen to all the women on the thread who say "LOL! Men are insecure slut shamers. Tell him to go to hell"  See how well that goes for your marriage.
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This is a really good analogy. *golf clap*[/quote]

+1.  Yea, that WAS good.[/quote]

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