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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]There are SO many things wrong with gender communications.  OP, if you're smart and don't want a dead bedroom like most the people giving you advice , I suggest you approach this with an open mind.  He's likely shutting you out because you're miles away from what he thinks the problem is.  It engulfs him in grief to think he should have to spell out common courtesy to you.

Usually what upsets me most in these scenarios is that I'm an adult.  I'm capable of making my own decisions.  I love my spouse.  Yet my spouse is talking to me like I don't care about her feelings and that I'm not capable of deciding when thinks are appropriate and taking her best interest in my decision making process also.

For example 
DONT touch me !!!   Like wtf.  You invalidating me as a person when you make a demand like that , ignoring my desires.   I don't need you snapping like that.   
You should acknowledge him.   "Hey honey, I love the effection.  It just creeps me in front of our child.

If he left the house.  He is super hurt and pissed that you don't trust his judgements.   If you want a marriage and not a roommate ,  sincerely apologize to him and ignore the old hags here that have already ruined their marriages. [/quote]

There are SO many things wrong with your post.

For starters, "common courtesy" would dictate that it's not appropriate to just grope someone, period. Your wife, your husband, whoever. If a stranger reached over and grabbed my breast, that stranger would get slapped in the face. If my husband reached over and grabbed my breast, I would say, "Hey, hands. That's not okay with me" if it was not okay with me. Because my husband is NOT AN ASSHOLE, he would not get upset about that.

Since he reached out and groped her and got pissed when she told him not to, he clearly doesn't care about her feelings. How is that taking her best interest into account, other than that apparently according to you, it's in her best interest to let her husband do whatever he wants or else he will be sad. Reaching out and groping is invalidating HER as a person and ignoring HER desires. Snapping is 100% appropriate. His judgment is clearly not trustworthy, since he a) grabbed and groped, b) got pissed about it when she told him to knock it off and c) left the house and then slept on the couch to punish her for expressing a preference about how and when she wants to be touched.

You sound like a person who does not respect your wife's right to body autonomy. If she doesn't want to sleep with you, that's why.q[/quote]

+1 to all this.[/quote]

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