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[quote=Anonymous]OP. I've been in your exact situation regarding the college student in India (in our case, Delhi). The answer for me was: you go. You go for a week, you take it easy when you are there, and meet her friends and see her university. You do a couple hours a day of stuff with her and a couple hours of hanging at the hotel with her watching movies or looking at the pictures on her phone from her semester so far, or whatever. Treat her to nice meals. Bring the stuff from home that she needs (or just some of her favorite foods!). You go, you come back. You stop overthinking it. She wants to know you care about her AND her experience and wants to share it with you. And she's probably a little homesick.

Do not tell your daughter you need to stay home for your pets. Or for her siblings. Or because you no longer feel adventurous. You can make arrangements to be away for a week. She is doing a super courageous and difficult thing. You can do the courageous thing too and go to her. She needs her mom. They won't admit it at this age, but they do.

You have to put as much time into the relationship with your young adult daughter as you did when she was younger. This is the age when that relationship can go either way and set a trajectory for years to come. Please go!

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