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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]To the "I always wanted them" folks:

But *why* did you want them? For what reason? I like kids too, I'm good with them, and have a strong maternal personality. But I don't want kids. Can those of you who say "because I always wanted them" elaborate on this? [/quote]

I like babies and kids in general, and felt confident that I could be a reasonably good parent - provide a safe home, love, support, and nurturing.

Certainly, having children gives a certain structure and meaning to your life, but so do plenty of other things. (And there are no guarantees with children, so IMO future results are a bad reason to become a parent. Plenty of people pour their heart and soul into raising kids who grow up to disappoint, hurt, or reject their parents.)

Personally, I wanted the experience of raising a child, seeing the world through their eyes, and helping them grow into a confident and happy adult. I think there's something profound about being a parent - introducing a child to the world, guiding them through it, and seeing who they become. Can't find the quote right now, but Nora Ephron wrote beautifully about the experience of your adult children coming home to visit you, and being so astonished that you produced these amazing people. That's what I hope for myself, as a parent - to raise happy, healthy people who bring something good into the world. [/quote]

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