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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Honestly as someone who experienced date rape, it drives me crazy when people call this song "rapey".  This song is NOT what rape is like, in ANY sense. And I dont believe that there would be a single rape victim who would ever suggest that what they experienced sounds like this song.

"Rapey" is offensive. Rape is rape, there's no such thing as something being "rapey", its not an adjective, its a verb. A violent verb, not a playful banter.

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Um, are you dumb? There is absolutely a think called "rapey"- things which have a vibe of lack of consent, lack of regard for the word "no", etc.

You sound like the type of person who claims "rape culture" does not exist.  Yikes. [/quote]

No, I'm not dumb.  
My thought process is this:
"Rapey" to me sounds like "rape-ish". 
If it's rape, there's no question that it's rape.  The sky can be bluish-grayish.  Not quite blue, not quite gray. 
Rape isn't a gray area, ever. It's either rape or it's not. 
It's like saying someone is dead-ish. 
To keep promoting that there are all these levels of rape (allowing something to be not rape but rapey or rape-ish) makes the crime of rape less clear.
As a rape victim myself, my feeling is that this does not help women.[/quote]

This is great thinking that empowers abusers.  Like the "perfect victim"- either it's full on, rape in a back alley or with GHB, or it's not rape, not rapey- and there are no words to describe what happened.

Nah.  I think I'll go along with the cultural zeitgeist and continue to use the word.  I am sorry for what happened for you and I hope you can read up on people who write extensively on what you are describing.  Good luck. [/quote]

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