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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Let your daughter decide what she wants to wear. You're being very overbearing[/quote]

She just explained that her daughter has some social issues and has been teased about clothes in the past.[/quote]

Different poster, who was in the same boat as OP's DD as a kid. So what? Let her wear what she likes anyway. Teach her that she does not have to care if others like how she dresses, and as far as clothes go, as long as the person wearing it likes it & it meets any applicable dress code, that's all that matters. The other kids are the ones in the wrong for teasing her; let her be happy and confident in liking any reasonable (not obscene or wrong for the environment) outfit she happens to like.

My mother used to insist on dressing me exactly like other kids so I would "fit in", but it did not work and I was still mostly on the fringes socially, so all it did was give me massive anxiety about looking just right so I would be good enough. In my opinion unless there's a major reason why an outfit is not okay, clothing should be a child's choice.[/quote]

Thanks PP - I was just going to post something similar. My mom wanted me to fit in so badly, and I never did. My dad on the other hand, thought I was awesome just being me - so I grew up to be confident anyway.

Please OP, just let your daughter be herself. She doesn't have to please anyone, she doesn't have to wear the right things, she just needs to be herself - I'm pretty sure she's amazing just as she is.[/quote]

Thanks.  It's OP, and I agree with you.  I pretty well March to the best of my own drummer myself, so I'm fine if she does whatever makes her happy. The issue is more that she doesn't focus on this social stuff until she suddenly realizes that whatever is totally wrong.  A couple of weeks ago she wouldn't even go into church because she saw some girl from school and didn't want to walk past her.  If she cared about clothes and had a viewpoint she wanted to express, I'd totally support that.  But since I know she hates clothes and doesn't want to put thought into it, I feel like it falls on me to steer her a little bit, but I try to do it subtly.[/quote]

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