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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Depending on the school, you won’t have much of a choice. Many of them redshirt kids back to may for K entry. [/quote]

So how is this decided? My June boy was not redshirted by the school, but my friend's son was. They are 1 year apart and in the same class. Watching the class engage, I feel like my son is too young for K. He's that one kid who doesn't sit still, doesn't listen the first time, is constantly disturbing other children, making poor choices, etc. Hopefully behaviors really do level out as they age.[/quote]

He’s a year younger.  These are not his true peers.  Maybe his last preschool did not prepare him, especially if it was play based.  [/quote]

His entire class isn't one year older. I just know of this one child in particular because I know his mother outside of school. His last wasn't play- based, but it doesn't seem like he was prepared at all which is why I'm so curious how it's decided whether to redshirt or not. For the record, I know my friend had zero plans to redshirt until the school pretty much said you can redshirt or be rejected, choice is yours.[/quote]

I'd rather be rejected as it's not the right school fit to hold back a child based on its easier for the school vs. putting the time into the child to help them be successful.  [/quote]

Spending an extra year raising them is literally putting in the time.[/quote]

That's not really how it works.  And, if you put the time in early on you probably would not have needed to hold them back.  At 18, senior year, anyone who has checked out, isn't going to put effort in when kids are 18/senior year.  Be real.[/quote]

Be real? What?  My 18 year old senior crushed it.  In academics, sports, socially, everything.  Happy kid has had a great freshman year at Princeton so far as well.  [/quote]

And, be real.  If you sent him on time, he probably would have crushed it too.  But, you choose to infantile him by holding him back.  He would have been crushing it as a sophomore where he should be.[/quote]

You are a fool. You know nothing of my kid, let alone where he stood 13 years ago, family genetics with respect to maturing, etc, etc, etc ad infinitum.  You just blather generalities.  You have no idea where he should be and you have no idea, really about anything.  Typical seldom right but never in doubter.  [/quote]

Right.. anything to justify the situation.  Maturing... you didn't even give your kid the chance.  [b]I hope you had him in therapy if he was that immature. [/b] He needed support not held back.[/quote]

Oh my God. Are you the same freak show who in a previous thread told me  that since my late summer kid was socially and emotionally not ready for kindergarten, I should have put him through a full neuropsych evaluation and gotten him therapy, instead of.. just waiting a year? Despite the fact that just waiting a year got him exactly where he needed to be?

Your passion for pathologizing normal variations in development  is truly terrifying. [/quote]

If your child had social and emotional delays, yes, you should have gotten them help.  Maybe you are why they were so delayed.[/quote]

That’s right, sunshine, he had some kind of delay that was completely remediated by… waiting 12 months.

If waiting 12 months solves the problem without further intervention, I’m completely baffled why you think subjecting a child to extensive testing and therapy is somehow a better solution. Other than, of course, the violation of your invented natural law dictating a 12 month span in the classroom. As if multi-age classrooms haven’t been the practice for the greater part of human history…[/quote]

NP. I feel like if 12 months solves the problem, he can do it at grade level. That makes it so he isn't off grade level the rest of his school career, needlessly, since this sounds like a temporary, 12-month problem. So what if he has a tough K, 1st, or 2nd grade year? At least he is working "up."

I have a September boy (who would be 17 all through his senior year, many years into future). He is in the lowest group in his class for in reading. But he's very smart and competitive, so he's working hard to keep up with kids who are nearly a year, or more than a year (redshirted) ahead of him, and making big gains.

[b]I am very anti-redshirt overall, but I could see myself doing it much later if it makes sense for sports and if he wants it.[/B] My child is athletic and will grow up very tall and strong, so an extra year might truly make a difference in physical growth, and depending on the school and cutoffs, he might actually be too young for his grade by high school (if we went private). So, imagining he has potential to be a college athlete, then I'd look at it. But not while he's a little elementary schooler. He deserves to be where school system says he should be, and I can't really think of any circumstance why any child shouldn't be. Their brains are ready, behavior may vary.
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The bolded is peak DCUM anti-redshirter. “I know better than the rest of you and if you redshirt you are wrong wrong wrong and I definitely know better what to do with your kids than you do, but if I want to redshirt my kid, it’s a good idea and totally fine and obvs the right thing to do.”

Classic. Yet more good old-fashioned hypocrisy from DCUM anti-redshirters shamelessly displayed for the rest of us to gawk at. [/quote]

“Redshirting for me but not for thee.”

Typical anti-redshirter. [/quote]

Except for serious disabilities, there is no good reason to hold back a child.  If anything you should send the child so they will be with peers and get the support they need.  Ignoring the issue and playing the wait-and-see game is a very dangerous one to play.  These kids are losing a year  of services and supports especially if parents don't engage the kids in private therapies and supports.[/quote]

You keep saying this but, that's not how this works. Parents have figured out what works for them. You don't get to decide what's a good reason or not. It's perfectly clear you don't have kids and have no experience with what you're talking about. Why do you keep repeating the same nonsense over and over again? You simply just don't get it and never will.[/quote]

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