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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think the reason so many prominent people have publicly and strongly sided with Larson, and the support for Dorland has been slower to emerge and often veiled in anonymity (as here) is that powerful people identify with Larsen and the writing group. They identify with the idea of people they don’t like wanting to be friends with them, and with the idea of being polite to their face while trashing them privately because that is something they have done in the past.

The people who identified with Dorland are, by definition, people who have been traumatized by in/out group dynamics and may carry a lot of shame and grief. I have been obsessed with this story since in came out but there is no trace that I’ve even read it on Twitter or elsewhere. I have only talked about it here and in, yes, a group chat with people who know my connection to the story. I am afraid any public discussion about this story would draw the attention of the people who used to stalk my social media expressly to make fun of me while smiling to me face. I always police my public activity for this reason, but something like this feels especially risky.[/quote]

Yes to all of this. It definitely struck a nerve with me. I was writing an email to a group I'm in, and I suddenly thought what if everyone is not only rolling their eyes, but writing FU@K HER in all caps over and over again.

While it certainly won't make a difference, I'm fine marking my protest of one by not buying another book by Celeste Ng. I have bought both of hers and would have bought her next one. But, there are so many books! I even went through Twitter and cleared out about 200 follows because I don't want the toxic energy in my life. I looked up a bunch of lower totem pole writers who I follow, but don't see as often (probably because they don't Tweet as often) and they are lovely. That's the energy I want. I realize I wasn't going on Twitter because I'm tired of that snarky energy. It used to be my thing 20+ years ago, but then I realized it was not serving me. It made me feel terrible, so I stopped. I don't have the energy to hold a grudge or care that much that someone is doing X.

This has been a nice thread, and hopefully I know some of you IRL. I'm sorry to hear that so many have been subject to this kind of behavior. [/quote]

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