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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]MIl insisted on hosting (we alternate years celebrating with DH’s family and mine, we always host when it’s my family, but MIL or SIL like to host on their years). MIL insisted no one show up until an exact set time (like a PP’s mother).

Upon arrival, we were immediately hustled to the dining room for dinner. Dinner was - salmon and roasted potatoes and asparagus.

When asked what happened to all of the/our traditional Thanksgiving dishes, she said she “just doesn’t feel like cooking Thanksgiving foods any longer.”

SIL (MIL’s 42 year old daughter) pitched a screaming and crying fit that she would have hosted had she known we wouldn’t be served Thanksgiving dishes, and went into her childhood bedroom to sulk.

The rest of SIL’s family, my family and FIL sat at the table, partly dumbfounded at the food on the table and partly frozen in place listening to MIL and SIL scream at each other through the bedroom door.

On a bright note, the apple and pumpkin pies I brought were a hit! [/quote]

Team SIL. WTF was MIL thinking? Very selfish on her part. [/quote]

This has been hotly debated in past years. Yes the host can serve what they want, but for Thanksgiving it is essential to give warning if they will not be serving "Thanksgiving". It was settled and is DCUM canon. MIL was wrong for not providing this info. [/quote]

Just proves the family isn’t close and doesn’t talk to each other or they all would have known in advance.[/quote]

Um no if someone says they are hosting Thanksgiving that means the traditional meal unless explicitly stated. And if you said salmon I’d say no thanks and we’ll see you another time. [/quote]

If it never came up in the weeks prior to Thanksgiving then the family isn’t talking. We had numerous conversations with my in-laws about turkey size, which recipes we were using, who was bringing what, etc.

That’s how normal families do it.[/quote]

No, it depends. When my mom hosts, we have our assignments but she wants to do it her way and there is no discussion or need to discuss—she does our things and we bring our assignments.

When my sister, brother or I host, there is more discussion.

Your way is not the only way, dear.[/quote]

PP said normal. Your family is not normal. [/quote]

NP and have a similar scenario. We talked through it, once, years ago on how it would look if my mom hosts. Then it’s like, “Same plan?” Same plan. When my mom hosts, she does almost everything, but my family brings pies and an appetizer, my brother brings wine and homemade mac and cheese, and my sister brings sodas, a chocolate cake, and rolls from our favorite bakery near her house.

There’s no need to pick over and plan. We’re a well-oiled machine! There’s more discussion when someone else hosts. I get that some people like to plan and plot and yip and yap, and good for them. But having a plan and being like, “Same plan? Got it!,” is fine. It’s weird to think otherwise, just because you’re a Big Talkin’ Planner who acts like making a roast turkey and some sides is harder and more involved than it actually is. [/quote]

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