Reply to SAHM’s - anyone successfully convince DH to support their staying home long term?

Forum Index » Relationship Discussion (non-explicit)

Reply to "SAHM’s - anyone successfully convince DH to support their staying home long term?"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You are more at risk when you are young. The older you are, the more assets you have accumulated and also the more likely you are to get alimony. [/quote]

Did you read? Even when you get alimony, it’s not enough to live on. Unless you’re married to a gazillionaire, you better continue working to protect yourself. [/quote]

I am not sure “working to protect yourself” isn’t a wholly depressing way to go about life though.  I don’t know that, even if something were to happen to my husband, I would trade the days I’ve had with my daughter away to be in an office so I’d be more financially stable in a hypothetical future. I say this from a place of relative privilege because I have family assets and a degree that would support me and my daughter comfortably if I did need to, but I[b] can’t imagine going to work every day thinking “I’m sacrificing time with my child so if my husband leaves me I’m in a marginally better financial position”[/b][/quote]

I'm a WOHM, but I have to agree with this.  It seems odd to spend most of your waking life protecting yourself against a future that might not happen.  It's kind of like doomsday preppers but with a greater time commitment and less fun.

If I were working for that reason, I might almost will a divorce to happen just so that it will have been worth it.  
[/quote]

So why do you work then? Because deep down, you know that 50% of marriages end in divorce and you don't want to be a divorced woman with no resume, no updated skills, and no earning potential.[/quote]

NP. This is so true. My marriage has been going downhill since I was pregnant with my second (she just turned 2). Earlier this year, I was looking at that large 6 year gap on my resume, add to it a few years spent doing nothing during an international assignment we just started, and that's close to 10 years with nothing to show for myself right there. That's unemployable except for Walmart maybe. Luckily I found a super flexible remote position that pays peanuts but at least I get some work history on my resume for whenever my husband blindsides me and I have to go back full-time. [/quote]

You did the right thing. Nearly all men I knew from international development field were habitual cheaters. Mine was sleeping with a colleague on his trips for 6 years until he decided to leave for her[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics