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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You are more at risk when you are young. The older you are, the more assets you have accumulated and also the more likely you are to get alimony. [/quote]

Did you read? Even when you get alimony, it’s not enough to live on. Unless you’re married to a gazillionaire, you better continue working to protect yourself. [/quote]

I am not sure “working to protect yourself” isn’t a wholly depressing way to go about life though.  I don’t know that, even if something were to happen to my husband, I would trade the days I’ve had with my daughter away to be in an office so I’d be more financially stable in a hypothetical future. I say this from a place of relative privilege because I have family assets and a degree that would support me and my daughter comfortably if I did need to, but I can’t imagine going to work every day thinking “I’m sacrificing time with my child so if my husband leaves me I’m in a marginally better financial position”[/quote]

I am the PP who got 3.5mm in divorce and still went to work at 60k. There are no ideal solutions and of course I cherish the years I spent with my son. But sometimes I am asking myself if I could do more to combine work and parenting, like part-time, consulting, non-for-profits with flexible schedules, getting licensed in my field. I did spend a lot of time planning family trips, my exH schedule, contractors around the house ([b]where my exH stayed as I couldn’t afford it[/b]).
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and there you have it. your lack of self awareness is amazing.[/quote]

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