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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]She belongs with her bio-Dad. I don't see how the adoptive family can even sleep at night knowing this child is wanted by her family of origin and yet still wanting to keep her, as if she's a pet and not a human.[/quote]

Agreed. Adoption should not be about taking children from parents willing to raise their children. This entire case is a disgrace. At the very least, the biological Dad should be allowed 50/50 custody of the child. [/quote]

Adoption should not be about taking children from parents who are willing to raise them.  He indicated that he was NOT interested in raising the child.  READ his testimony.

Once you give up your parental rights - within whatever time of revocation the law allows - you are DONE.  You should never, under any circumstances, be able to undo it.  It is completely unfair to the child and the people adopting her.  
Once you adopt a child they become YOUR child.  They become a family member.  You don't get an "oops wait a minute" when you give up your baby for adoption.   And you don't get an "oops wait a minute" pass when you tell your pregnant ex GF that you will not raise the child.

He signed the papers.  I don't want to hear that he didn't know what he was signing, or he wasn't in the right state of mind, or whatever other lame excuses he wants to make.  He made a decision, he abdicated his responsibility, the courts made the right decision.  I am only sorry the child, the adoptive parents, and the bio mom had to suffer so much as a result of his selfish, idiotic behavior.[/quote]

They didn't actually adopt her till recently.  It isn't as simple as you make it sound.  He did not sign adoption paperwork.  He did not consent to adoption.[b]  He consented to the mother having full custody[/b], something he had to do for the military.  She did not want him involved with pregnancy or marrying him like he offered.    He filed quickly and he was given custody and the family refused to return the child holding her illegally.[/quote]

Wrong. Mr. Brown consented to making the biological mother having full responsibility, rights, and decision-making capabilities - which includes giving the child up for adoption. I understand he regrets that now, but it's his own fault.

And sorry, but saying "marry me or I'm staying out" is basically a threat, and extremely manipulative. What a shitty thing to say to any person, any woman, or any pregnant woman. [/quote]

YOU ARE WRONG.  For a legal and ethical adoption, both birthparents should be provided with attorney's and both should consent in writing.  It is different to consent to custody and adoption.  For a true ethical adoption, it requires full informed consent and a revocation period.  Several states have poor adoption laws that allow this type of corruption.  The attorney, agency and family moves the birthmother to one of these states to get around states with good and ethical laws to do a quick and easy adoption.  What they did was horrible, corrupt, immoral and they are going to ruin this poor child.  In some states, best practice is for both parents to consent to adoption in court.  That is the only true way to do it where no one can claim they did not understand.  For our adoption, each birthparent had their own attorney who reviewed all the documentation (separate from our attorney) and it had to be approved by the court for us to get guardianship for health insurance and other reasons.  They knew the laws, like many families adopting learn and used them against this guy.  Custody and adoption are two different issues.  They lied to him.[/quote]

If you're going to approach this from your own personal emotional standpoint, there's really no point, because "feelings" are not an objective grounds for such analysis. [/quote]

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