Reply to What has surprised you - as your kid comes to the end of this process

Forum Index » College and University Discussion

Reply to "What has surprised you - as your kid comes to the end of this process"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Now that we’re done, I’m surprised by how personally I’m taking this (awful, terrible, no good) process.  My really great kid got rejected from every reach (that are reaches for everyone - he really and truly had the lottery ticket for all of them).  I’m mad at myself for not grooming him more and getting him (or getting him to do) all the fake crap that other kids seem to do to for the sole purpose of getting into college.  I’m mad that AOs don’t see through the bullshit and keep falling for it.  and my feelings aren’t just for my kid, really.  I’m sad for all the sincere, genuine kids who are KIDS and do the stuff that needs to be done because it needs to be done (student council, school clubs, tutoring, working real jobs) and get hosed.  [/quote]

I have a lot of sympathy for you (and wonder if I'll feel this way next year: I have a junior). It's tough. At the same time, dh and I are trying hard to keep reiterating to our kid that it truly doesn't matter where you go. My evidence for this is that we both went to Ivies and our lives are normal. We make less than most people. Neither of us had an amazing college experience, and neither of us have worked in fields where it matters where we went. The most successful kids from my high school class went to less selective undergrad schools and did exceptionally well. In the end it is about what you do, not where you go.[/quote]

I could have written the above post but substitute in “WASP” for Ivy and the only thing different is that I did have an amazing college experience. You’re absolutely right- if the college experience is amazing and transformative, that’s great and one can get that at hundreds of places.[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics